Hmmm. Lots of family discussion here. I've almost been lucky to live away from extended family. See them on holidays. But, now we have moved to the same city as many in the family....so now I get to join in on the craziness. There is an extended family member, let's call her "C." "C" is well known for being competitive, nosy and overly emeshed with her adult children. She is not technically a family member...very extended. Very. But, she is included in all family gatherings, holidays and hosts them at her house at times. Her adult children seem to keep things secret from her. I suspect this is because they tire of her competitive nature. So, we move to the same city as "C." It wasn't a secret, but no one seems to have told her. She found out by accident. Within a few moments of her finding out, she sends me an email asking if she can stop by to see my new house. Hmmm. I did not get warm fuzzies with this note/request. It wasn't like a welcome wagon type thing. Of course, I definitely could be reading into it, knowing that she has a long history of being competitive and nosy. As a side note....she is the type of person who thinks the person with the biggest house "wins." Wins what? The woman with the most grandkids is best. Huh? Brags on FB a LOT over every little silly dumb insane moronic thing. I told her we were overwhelmed with the house move, but when things cleared up, I would have her and her husband over for coffee. I kind of wish she would just wait like others as I will likely have a get together for Christmas. Relatives who are closer to me (she is a DISTANT BIG TIME DISTANT relative...not even sure I could technically call her a relative) are waiting and haven't asked to stop by. I've had a few close relatives over and that's it. What would you do? It feels a little creepy. Invite this person over who likely is simply comparing her house with mine? On one level and for the MOST part...I could care less. It seems immature, silly and SAD. So, on one hand I think I should just have her over for coffee and just think to myself "it is what it is" and if she is indeed comparing etc. like it seems as it might be...so be it. It's sad....just let it go. It's a poor reflection on her...nothing at all to do with me. Take the high road. I'm leaning in this direction. On another level, I think I should not participate in this and put her off indefinitely. Any thoughts?