Family Preservation Unit

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by Christy, Mar 18, 2008.

  1. Christy

    Christy New Member

    Hi All,
    I posted about a week ago about our 9 year old, difficult child's violent outbursts and how kicking, hitting, and even biting has become an all too common occurance in our home. In looking for HELP, I contacted the mental health association who put me in touch with a program called family preservation. Don't get me wrong, we are thrilled to have help and this is a team of counselors that is providing 5 hours/week in-home service (free of charge), but one of the things we were asked to sign was a safety contract. It listed the procedures for calling the counselor on call and what behaviors constituted an unsafe home(ie,sucicide threats, threats of violence, violent behavior, running away, etc).
    So I ask..."After observing difficult child the other day and seeing several violent outbursts in just a few hours time, do you think this is a same home environment?"

    "Well," she replies, "it really varies based on your individual situation. You have been used to dealing with this kind of behavior so you may not need to call a counselor since you are able to handle it."

    I ask, "Is there a particular number of times I have to be kicked or hit before it becomes unsafe?"

    "No," she says, " you should be able to feel safe at home."

    "Can you help us?" I ask.

    She was honest and said that it may require hospitalization to adjust medications. or inpatient care and that since they are able to observe first hand what is happening in the home, they can be our biggest advocate in getting the necessary services. This alone, makes it worth it. We have been asking for help and no one (p'doctor included) seems to understand the severity of the situation. She complimented our parenting skills and said that they would development a treatment plan that focuses on working directly with difficult child on anger mangement and social skills. This is exciting and we are pleased to have someone in our corner.

    I'll keep you updated as things progess.
  2. SomewhereOutThere

    SomewhereOutThere Well-Known Member

    Thanks, Christy. Hey, good for you! Sounds like you got the system to work for you :)
  3. Steely

    Steely Active Member

    Awesome news. I so wish I had some sort of intervention like that when my difficult child was young. I am glad you found it, and that the services are willing to help.
  4. susiestar

    susiestar Roll With It

    Glad you found some help in the system.

    You should feel safe in your home. Period.

  5. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I'm glad you found someone who is willing to listen and help!!
  6. Big Bad Kitty

    Big Bad Kitty lolcat

    Good for you for getting the help you need! It's always great to read positive follow up posts. Way to go, mom!