Hi. I'm new here and stumbled across this site while googling ODD. I really just need a great big venting session. My 5 year old daughter has been "challenging" since just before she turned 2. She's bright and outgoing. But her dark side is driving me insane. Today is a perfect example. We were in a mall and she wanted some Bratz fingernail extensions (something she has never had before and only wanted because it had Bratz on the package). I told her no. She had a meltdown and started hitting me and screaming and as I turned to walk out of the shop she flung her body into me and shoved me from behind constantly. I grabbed her hand to stop her hitting me and led her away... all the while she was screaming and hurling abuse and threatening to smash my head in (her latest favorite thing to scream at me),and once we got into the car she started spitting at me. I wish I could say this was a one-off. But it happens frequently. I have tried 1-2-3 Magic, star charts, taking things away, smacking ~ even though it is against my beliefs... I've tried so many things for months at a time before I try something new. She rarely will do what I ask her to without arguing or having a tantrum. She talks back to me and other adults. She is very sociable and extroverted but other children end up not wanting to play with her because she tries to control the games including what they must say in a game and how they must say it. It hurts her deeply when kids don't want to play with her anymore because she is a painful mixture of incredibly bossy and ultra sensitive. On days she isn't at preschool she gets really sad because she craves time with other kids. She will fly off the handle over the smallest things. I took her to a child psychologist when she was 3 because of this type of behaviour. It was a fruitless visit. I have decided to make an appointment with our doctor this week. I feel hurt and confused and alone... and battered. I love her so much but I feel at the point where I don't want to be near her. So many conflicting emotions. She has a great big heart and is funny and can be so sweet. But this other behaviour is present more often than the sweet girl. Thanks for taking the time to read this.