I just found this site, while searching google on how to help my depressed son. I have read a few threads, and gained knowledge and suggestions that I find useful. I'm not sure how this works, but here is my story. I have 2 sons, 17 and 20. I have been divorced 15 years. Was married to an alcoholic that continues to drink. He has never spent much time with the boys, and consistently blew them off most of their childhood. My 20 yr old started having panic attacks and anxiety at 15, couldn't go to his regular HS, and finished school at an alternative program which was doing his school work at home. He also started smoking pot at this time. He went through a really difficult time, tried a few antidepressants, a few counseling sessions, but quit the medications and therapists. He did improve for a time, started riding motorcycles which he loved. The last year, he has been getting more depressed. Quit going to community college, sits in his room all day, quit showering, lost weight, plays video games all night and sleeps all day. I have begged, pleaded, cried, screamed ect..to try to get him to see a therapist. He refuses, says he is sick of me asking him. He says the fact that I bring it up everytime I see him, it makes him want to stay in his room more. I am desperate and don't know what else I can do to help him. This is making my other son depressed, and he hates being at home now.