Yesterday was day 3 at the shelter and our son calls and is complaining to his dad that his friend, "J-1" (there are 3 J's) who he had been staying with had called and wanted us to pick him up and take him to the shelter too. He was living at a cousin's house. We said no. Our son did NOT want this kid there...he said something along the line of he'd end up getting kicked out because they don't get along. J-1 and he have been friends since middle school and he lived with us for a while when he was 16 and 17. For a number of reasons, we ended up driving him to his dad's, 4 hours away. This is the kid I've mentioned I've always felt sorry for. He really has had a hard time. He lived with his mom, who didn't work and mooched off friends and then left him to go live with her on-line boyfriend in Texas, leaving him with us. The only time I ever met the woman was when she came and picked up the Power of Attorney to sign so we could take care of her kid...what kind of mother does that? (This was also the home where my son had his first joint.) Well anyway, my son and J-1 just don't get along that well anymore. He can only take J-1 in short doses. We told him to tell the shelter director that they should NOT be roomed together because they will have problems. But today I get a text from J-1 - on my son's phone! He apparently took a cab to the shelter and only had $10 to begin with and he has a fine that was due yesterday...he asked ME for $25 because he's afraid they'll issue a warrant and he'll end up in jail! My first thought was "Not just no but Hell NO!" My response was more polite, but otherwise the same. My son was complaining the other day he'd loaned J-1 $10 to pay on his fine and he used it for liquor. I'm worried to death that this will end up being a problem for my son. I can see J-1 taking our "no" out on him. I guess this is just a silly worry...but it's just one more I didn't need. My son needs to go his own way and these friends are just standing in the way. It was bad enough when they weren't following him!