1) Principal calls today and says difficult child is in some trouble, not so major, but still trouble. Then, says another boy and difficult child had a little pushing at lunch today but that seemed to blow over fairly quick so it was let go. Same boy later, back in class, decides to keep things going with difficult child. Words were said then other boy pushes difficult child, then grabs him and holds him up against wall, then grabs difficult child's neck and hit him. difficult child hit boy at this point and pushes him away. difficult child is in trouble for fighting. Being the holidays and difficult child's major improvement in behavior this school year, principal decides instead of 3-day suspension, difficult child can do 12 hours of community service over holiday break. difficult child had been taken to clinic because he had marks on his neck but was ok. EXCUSE ME??? Is it only me here, am I being biased? I asked if other boy is in trouble , too- Yes. Ok, why is difficult child in trouble if other boy was the physical aggressor? because difficult child said he thinks he could have contributed because he said some things back to other boy when other boy started mouthing off. FINE. I come home and difficult child has mark on neck and face. I asked what his part was in keeping this going (mouthing off, etc.) He says nothing, other than when boy had him against wall, by throat, that he hit him and pushed him away. I asked where difficult child hit him and difficult child said his side, then just pushed him. Now, I've got no problem with difficult child doing community service. It's a good thing, especially this time of year, even if not in trouble. But I do think maybe I should take action to make sure this is not a "strike" against him b/'c he's on probation, but more than that, I know if difficult child had instigated this much, he would have been in trouble and the other kid wouldn't have been. difficult child said other boy got same punishment and that difficult child got in trouble because he hit the other boy. If he'd only pushed and not hit (1 time), it would have been considered defense and not fighting. Do you guys think I'm being too biased? 2) difficult child had assessment from private team at mood disorders clinic in Oct. It took FOREVER to get this done. I was so excited to have highly reknown people do this. They gave me verbal feedback, asked for more info, and when I hand delivered that, said I would hear back from them a 2-3 weeks. Well, here IEP team, probation officer, me, everyone is waiting for their report and written recommendations, STILL. I have called numerous times and even wrote a letter asking for a diagnosis and treatment recommendations in writing, which I would pay for myself, if they could be provided prior to the full report. Every time I call, I get told whatever I want to hear (we'll check on that and call right back, it's been mailed, etc.), then, I never hear or see anything else. They do say they are way behind on their cases. Is there anything I can do? Would a place like this (from a teaching hospital) just forget us? Should I write it off or will I receive a report in the mail some day next year? I've been telling sd and others - "We can proceed with such and such, as soon as I get this report"- but now I think, I'm never going to get it. Thanks, ladies, for letting me vent!!