sorry, I deleted my post about my oldest difficult child. Was not sure I said what I wanted to correctly. LOL. Then I edited it and then still was not sure but after I had edited it, I tried to delete it and it would not simply delete entirely. I got this message I had to have at least 10 characters or something like that. My apologies to everyone. I guess my post was kind of------I think my oldest might be on spectrum rather than (or in addition to) being bipolar. But she is 19, has not been in school in a few years.....so- does it even matter ?