the obsession takes over. Does that seem logical? It sure does to me. My parents took difficult child in, and allowed him the D&D, Manga, and Magic the Gathering stuff that we had forbidden. Part of the reason we would not allow it was that if he could not get "new" or "more" of his obsession, he stole. Hmmmmm...... Why did they call us to come get him? Oh, Yeah! He stole from my dad's wallet. I allowed him to be back here, as a GUEST. He is my son, my love is unending, but he cannot live under our house rules. My mom and I made arrangements for him to be here for a week. Gpa came and picked him up 2 days early. My mom and her cleaning lady spent 4 hours in his room, cleaning and sorting. Mostly pulling out enough Magic, D&D, and Manga stuff to fill a 7 foot tall locking metal cabinet!!!!! When they allowed it I told them it would be a never ending need. Why do they all treat me like an idiot on this? We worked for YEARS to help him moderate his obsessions, to no avail. Now he is allowed to have the stuff on weekends. The idea that he would do hard physical labor as a consequence simply does not compute. I am just so confused. All of MY instincts as his mom say this is headed for disaster. And it will. I am not sure I will cope if they want to send him back here again. We know he lies because his lips move, no joke. And Grandpa seems to work with him around the back of my mom. It all seems so unhealthy. But I REFUSE to live with him, just won't do that. Jess, thank you and I deserve safety. I wish them luck. I hope and pray they can find their way through this. BUT I will NOT be surprised if they find him stealing again, and Gpa went around the arrangements, so he can just figure out a way to handle it.