She admitted to smoking pot. She gave her notice at her job without having another job lined up because they don’t respect and appreciate her. They are always telling her what she is doing wrong when she works her off. She had $1800 in her savings account in June. She is down to $20. She agreed that she may have made bad choices with her money this summer and that she's stupid. Last week I sent her a text with everything I have seen since she has 'moved out’; she replied to Facebook with, 'I’m just the biggest f up, I guess' Unbelievable. I have asked her to keep our private information off of social media. It’s always poor me. Never ‘what am I going to do to fix this?’ ‘How can I better my life?’ I am scared. I was sad before because I felt I was losing my daughter. I thought maybe she was just having a fun summer. Now I think it’s something much worse. My husband (not her bio Dad) has raised her since she was 4. He has stayed out of this, other than supporting my blubbering self all summer. He just sent her a text about her choices and basically said to get her head out of her . In June, he took out a loan for her and got her a brand new car; she makes the payments to him. We also have her on our car insurance and cell phone plan, she pays her portion. He let her know that if she misses even one car payment, she looses the car and he will sell it. We believe she is heading this way. Who quits a decent job when you don’t have another to even go to yet?? I know she will be mad that he sent that text and will blame me. How can I ‘be there’ for her without enabling her? I know that I can not bail her out. In all honestly, I know I will want to but I also know that would be a huge mistake. I hate this. She turned 18 and has gone backwards every since. She was more mature at 16.