Mom2oddson
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You are not alone in your feelings. husband asked me if I still wanted to be married to him. I really do want him in my life. It's all the stress that comes with a life with him that I no longer want.
I don't want to deal with his two difficult children anymore. Any part of it. None of it! I so want to be done with difficult children.
I don't want to deal with his dysfunctional mother any more. Or the stress of having her in our lives. Or her enabling difficult child-S to throw her life away or the $900 a month we have to pay mother in law so that she can support difficult child-S.
I don't want our house anymore and all the work that needs to go into taking care of it and the yard and the repairs, and, and, and....
I don't want to be in this position where I HAVE TO go to a job I can't stand because I can't afford to leave the job.
husband is a recovering addict. He quit drugs before I met him... and now he has 2 years of sobriety under his belt. Will he go back some day??? No person can say yes or no. It is just one day at a time. And I guess this is where detachment comes into play. Today, he isn't drinking or anything else so today is a good day. If things change tomorrow - I'll deal with it tomorrow. Worring about husband's addiction and what might happen is like worring about what difficult child will do next week or next month. It's out of my hands until that day arrives.
I don't want to deal with his two difficult children anymore. Any part of it. None of it! I so want to be done with difficult children.
I don't want to deal with his dysfunctional mother any more. Or the stress of having her in our lives. Or her enabling difficult child-S to throw her life away or the $900 a month we have to pay mother in law so that she can support difficult child-S.
I don't want our house anymore and all the work that needs to go into taking care of it and the yard and the repairs, and, and, and....
I don't want to be in this position where I HAVE TO go to a job I can't stand because I can't afford to leave the job.
husband is a recovering addict. He quit drugs before I met him... and now he has 2 years of sobriety under his belt. Will he go back some day??? No person can say yes or no. It is just one day at a time. And I guess this is where detachment comes into play. Today, he isn't drinking or anything else so today is a good day. If things change tomorrow - I'll deal with it tomorrow. Worring about husband's addiction and what might happen is like worring about what difficult child will do next week or next month. It's out of my hands until that day arrives.