The good news is that preacher got replaced. I haven't had the emotional wherewithal to contact the new one; yet. The bad news is that my mother is talking to X's parents. After I told her not to. She doesn't understand that X will take anything she says (from the size of our house to what we eat for dinner) and try to turn it into court fodder. She should understand. I've explained it many times. I feel betrayed. And so stupid for trusting her again. I have this idea of what a mother daughter relationship should be like. It is far from reality, but I keep basing my actions on that fantasy that I want and getting hurt when she betrays my trust yet again. I need to read more on the parent emeritus forum about detaching. husband just brought me chocolate.