Looking for any suggestions on how to help my distraught and grieving 19 yr old son. A very close friend overdosed a week ago today and was buried Tuesday. The next night, last night, his ex girlfriend slams head on into a tree along with her new boyfriend and they were not wearing seatbelts. Ex girlfriend is still in ICU and has not come to. Cracked her skull, broke her pelvic...you get the idea. How do you handle so much trauma yourself let alone a young 19 year old? I am afraid for him. I don't know what to do about him going back to Jr. College, etc? Not bug him? He asked me "to let him be" when I expressed my sadness for what he is going through.