Why is it that now that my own difficult child's are doing okay, I have to deal with someone else's difficult child??? Easter is going along great. Actually, I figured we were pretty much done with the day. I visited the kids, we went to mother in law's. I was putting supper on.... (no big easter dinner here) for husband, T and myself. easy child is at her mother in law's. And N and b/f were supposed to be going to his grandparents house. Out of the blue they show up here. Since they don't get out of the car, both husband and I know they're fighting again. Goody. I ignore it as it isn't in my face. boyfriend had complained earlier that the baby had kept him up last night due to her cold. (gee, N's been up with her all week) So I figure he's probably in a bad mood and decided to dish out more of his crap to N. boyfriend comes inside a bit later without N. This is an old ply of his where I'm supposed to ask him what's wrong. Whereby he tells me how bad N is, and I'm supposed to go out and convince her to either come inside or agree to with boyfriend. (in other words convince her boyfriend is right and she's wrong) I flat out ignore him. by the way boyfriend doesn't seem the least bit upset, even manages a smile and polite conversation with T. Meanwhile N and baby are in the car. boyfriend manages to make his way back outside after deciding I'm not taking the bait. Not long after, husband blows a gasket because both kids take off down the alley and leave the baby in the car. I go out and retreive the baby. Livid myself. husband monitors the situation via the livingroom window. Tells N I have the baby when the kids return to the car a few mins later. Proceeds to describe to me how N is sitting up against the car while b/f is reaming her and she's crying. Next thing we know she's inside swiping tears and taking the baby. As I said before, I was livid. So the second she was inside I asked her what the H#ll he was reaming her for this time? And what were they thinking taking off down the alley leaving the baby alone in the car?? (I know I should've kept my mouth shut) She said nothing. So I flat out and told her she needs to learn to rip the jerk a new @sshole when he acts like this. They of course left. I'm assuming all is well in b/f's world now that he got to knock N into the gutter once again and she's once again docile and agreeable. So evidently they're now on their way to his grandparents. I was so hoping he'd put her down in front of me this time. I was going to let him have it both barrels no holds barred. I'm so fed up with this boy's dramatics it makes me physically ill. I'll never understand why N is taking this crap from him. It has to be love. He isn't by far the first boy she's dated. Any of them try this sort of thing and they'd wish they weren't born. It wouldn't occur to her to take this sort of crap from anyone else. We're going to have a serious discussion when they get home this evening. Putting the baby in the middle is crossing a line I won't let either of them cross. Although baby was perfectly safe this time. husband could see her from the window and the kids were just down the alley, maybe a half a block. But what about next time? Or other times we may not know about. I think I'll be making a stop at our domestic violence shelter on my way home from school tomorrow.