My son turned 18 last week. I'm coming to terms with the reality that the amazing child I brought into the world seems to have squandered the gifts he was born with and it's looking less and less likely he'll live a life to be proud of. From age 11 he started becoming difficult at school, lying, and by 14 he was in continual trouble, smoking weed regularly. Over the past 4 years he's stolen all my jewellery, defrauded my bank account, stolen cards, you name it. All for weed. Life with him has been pretty awful for the most part. His life was and is dedicated to partying. He trashed all boundaries I tried to set, continually too tired to go to school . Unsurprisingly he failed his exams. He's filthy in the home (whenever he's home as he stays out a lot) he's very abusive to me if I date say anything. He steals whenever he gets the opportunity a- less now because we are wise to his ways and keep everything as secure as possible. One glimmer of hope is he's hanging in at college, but he just can't be bothered to do his assignments , and it's such a shame as he's got a teacher who really believes in him and he's doing a great performing arts course. I know he's got debts with his friends too. Well that's a summary, thanks if you've read this far!! My worst fear is he's got kind of sociopathic tendencies, he's such a convincing liar. He's not mean or anything but he'll do anything to get money to fund his lifestyle. As a parent I keep desperately hoping he'll improve and sometimes he's sorry and says he's going to change but it never lasts. Counselling was good but he never continued with it. Has anyone else been in this situation? Am I being overly negative... is there still a chance of change?