We are again faced with a difficult decision. Do we send our daughter to yet another Residential Treatment Center (RTC) or do we just struggle through the next year? She says she will continue her same behavior and it is a waste of time and money, it,s her life to live. She even said she would disrupt the place so much they would send her home! She has had moments where she is so good to be with but continues her defiance. She didn't like how I responded to her tonight, so she left the house. Again she has no permission for this because she stole from us and is on restriction. She hasn't earned one thing back in the 7 weeks she has been home. No computor, no phone, no hair cuts, no new clothes, no going to friends (we do allow them here though only 2 have ever come, the rest are people she knows we would approve of). I don't know why we even pretend as she leaves anyway. Uses their phones and computors. She does exactly as she pleases when she is bored with home. We are only one week into EMDR and still no luck on a job. She only spends about 2 hours a day at GED tutoring. She knows we have no control-she flies just under the radar of the law. We are being used-a revolving door. We have a place that our church recommended and we are working on seeing if they will take her(they are taking a long time). Our church will help us but we would be paying so much that we again would have no wiggle room-hope our cars hang on another year! I want her safe, but on the other hand are we just wasting money and delaying the inevitable? They have horses at this place. Maybe animals will change her-people sure haven't. What to do???