Decided to give difficult child's girlfriend's mom a break from chauffeuring, so I picked up the kids from school to take them to a movie (difficult child got passes for his birthday). Texted difficult child and all was fine, listened to carols on the way, and was happy, happy, happy, singing along to Dionne Warwick. Until I got to school, and difficult child expected to drive. I said no, not today. (I wanted to maintain my level of contentment.) difficult child blew up, planted himself in the back seat next to girlfriend and slammed the door so hard it hurt my ears. I told him that was unacceptable behavior, more like a 2-yr-old. He said I didn't HAVE to pick him up--girlfriend's mom was going to do it. I said I thought it would be a nice thing to do, to give her a break. He argued that she just sits around and watches TV all day. We made it to the first signal light before I was in tears and had to pull over. Why do I let him get to me? And when will he learn? I gave him a clonidine with no water and he took it with-o argument (so on some level, he knew he was out of line or he wouldn't have taken it). I told him I expected an apology. He didn't know why, and I said I don't like being yelled at when I'm doing someone a favor. He shouted "I told you that T was going to pick us up--you didn't have to!" After all these yrs, he still blows up at the word, "No." I'm doing better now. And he has no idea how many days/weeks of driving privileges he's just given up.