I am at the end of my rope! My nine year old AS daughter is in a mainstreamed class with an IEP which they are only partially following. She has speech once a week, is supposedly on a touch base /stand by basis with Occupational Therapist (OT), and is supposed to receive resource teaching for 30 mins at the end of every day to help "transition out" of her day. She has difficulty going to school... flips out in the mornings, cries she doesn't feel well, doesn't want to go. I get her there (Late alot of times) and she holds herself together, is not disruptive, her grades are average, although homework is like pulling teeth!! When I pick her up from school in the afternoon she melts down often before we even get out of the car! I recalled an IEP meeting.. it is coming up in two weeks, and voiced my frustrations to her teacher and principle..they reassured me she is fine at school and basically hinted since she loses it at home it is not their problem. She is under the care of a psychiatrist, and goes to a social skills group weekly. No current medications. And the school hinted "they would come up with a 504 plan for her.." does that mean taking away her IEP? Can they even do that? Any tips on what I should bring to the table.. our whole household is impacted by this on a daily basis...she is too overwhelmed, I feel she needs a smaller setting.. too much sensory stimulation. And her self esteem has plumetted, she makes remarks like she shouldn't be here, and she's stupid, ugly, ect. Please help?!? Desperate Mom at witts end.