Hi All, It's been awhile since I last posted. I need some help with the school and some advice. A little background: -difficult child has had an IEP for his ADHD/ODD since Kindergarten -Executive functioning deficits and visual processing problems were added from our independent evaluation last year -He is in 7th grade this year (new school since it's jr high - same district since K) -In his IEP he is supposed to get help in the areas of social/emotional/behavioral and organization. -In the jr high setting he gets his Special Education in one class period each day called Study Skills, but it is supposed to also be individualized based on his IEP. -His main issues at school are task initiation, sustained mental effort on bigger projects/assignments, task completion, organization, and behavior. The behavior problems are usually impulsive type stuff or reacting impulsively to someone/something. -He has been disciplined 5 times this school year (ISS, suspension, detention). The school flat out does NOT like me. The reason is because I say what I think, call them out when they are not doing what they should be, and because I will not go away. Every time I send an email that calls attention to something on their end, my son usually gets in trouble the next day. I don't know if it is coincidence or what, but it feels like they are getting back at me by punishing him. I get emails from teachers (including his sped teacher) saying things like: He is not motivated to do his work He refuses to do his work He is unwilling to do his work I can't help him unless he helps me help him They don't seem to have any understanding of ADHD and exec func problems. How can I get them to understand or request they get training? Also with the behavior problems, when are they going to understand that suspending him is not going to teach him how to behave differently next time? Like today, he moved someone out of the doorway that he needed to get thru - so he got ISS. When I asked him why he put his hands on someone he said "so I could get thru the door". He didn't do it to hurt them, or to be mean, or to bully, etc. He saw them as an obstacle that needed to be moved. I know that it is wrong, but suspending him will not teach him these things. I'm frustrated. He did it with a teacher nearby too. He didn't think it was something that would get him in trouble. I feel like I have PTSD and every time the phone rings, I freak out. Bottom line is they are looking at my child thru the wrong lenses. If he doesn't understand something or needs extra help they automatically jump to 'defiance'. If he does something impulsive, they automatically jump to bad intent. I'm tired of him being treated poorly by his educators. Is there anyway to turn this around? My gut tells me no.