TerryJ2
Well-Known Member
Hi, and welcome.
He must be miserable, rarely sleeping, and always ramped up like that. And I can imagine how miserable he makes it for you.
If the medications aren't doing much, I would consult a psychiatric and wean your difficult child off the medications one by one to see what makes a diff. Frankly, I'd take him off the ADHD medication first. It seems counterintuitive, but since he seems to have a mood disorder, most ADHD medications tend to make those worse.
Is there any medication that makes him sleepy or slows him down?
Also, when he went after his brother in the van, do you remember what happened immediately b4 that? Did his brother ask to borrow the laptop? Was he singing or doing something that an overstimulated kid might interpret as aggravating?
I think that the things that we take for granted--the buzzing of a fluorescent light, a scratchy label on the back of a shirt--that annoy us but it's no big deal--set off your difficult child like a cannon. He just cannot handle it.
I don't know how consistent your household is, but no matter what he's got going on, consistency is of utmost importance.
Also, I would eliminate milk products and wheat even if you think that's too simple; kids who are allergic to those things don't always have "regular" symptoms like bloating or headaches. They can have rages or other issues. You have to view it like a constant infection or weird "ache" that affects the entire body and makes them go wacko, but not knowing why. And adult would say, "I feel off today, like I'm going to get the flu or I have PMS." These kids cannot articulate that at all. They just blow up.
He's GOT to have outside recess, even if it means you take him outside after school. Your description screams "activity" and he is all stressed out with-no place to go.
Do you let him play video games? They increase electrical activity in the frontal lobes so you don't want him on games more than 1 hr a day, even 1/2 hr, max.
I spent weeks watching and studying my son. It was the only thing that kept me sane--feeling like I wanted to murder him but pretending I was Mr. Spock, LOL! I dedicated hours to just watching him, which wasn't easy, because he's always been one to fly under the radar. But I picked up on several things that I would have never noticed had I been going about my "normal" business.
Also, I would keep looking for a good doctor. It is a pain, but once you get one it is worth it.
Stay with us. So glad you found us but ... so sorry.
He must be miserable, rarely sleeping, and always ramped up like that. And I can imagine how miserable he makes it for you.
If the medications aren't doing much, I would consult a psychiatric and wean your difficult child off the medications one by one to see what makes a diff. Frankly, I'd take him off the ADHD medication first. It seems counterintuitive, but since he seems to have a mood disorder, most ADHD medications tend to make those worse.
Is there any medication that makes him sleepy or slows him down?
Also, when he went after his brother in the van, do you remember what happened immediately b4 that? Did his brother ask to borrow the laptop? Was he singing or doing something that an overstimulated kid might interpret as aggravating?
I think that the things that we take for granted--the buzzing of a fluorescent light, a scratchy label on the back of a shirt--that annoy us but it's no big deal--set off your difficult child like a cannon. He just cannot handle it.
I don't know how consistent your household is, but no matter what he's got going on, consistency is of utmost importance.
Also, I would eliminate milk products and wheat even if you think that's too simple; kids who are allergic to those things don't always have "regular" symptoms like bloating or headaches. They can have rages or other issues. You have to view it like a constant infection or weird "ache" that affects the entire body and makes them go wacko, but not knowing why. And adult would say, "I feel off today, like I'm going to get the flu or I have PMS." These kids cannot articulate that at all. They just blow up.
He's GOT to have outside recess, even if it means you take him outside after school. Your description screams "activity" and he is all stressed out with-no place to go.
Do you let him play video games? They increase electrical activity in the frontal lobes so you don't want him on games more than 1 hr a day, even 1/2 hr, max.
I spent weeks watching and studying my son. It was the only thing that kept me sane--feeling like I wanted to murder him but pretending I was Mr. Spock, LOL! I dedicated hours to just watching him, which wasn't easy, because he's always been one to fly under the radar. But I picked up on several things that I would have never noticed had I been going about my "normal" business.
Also, I would keep looking for a good doctor. It is a pain, but once you get one it is worth it.
Stay with us. So glad you found us but ... so sorry.