I have heard so many positive things about Dr Rileys book"The Defiant Child" and I will definetly order it. However, until I get it, can someone tell me briefly what he advocates, is it to ignore the child? not to get emotional, etc. Any info will help as I am dealing with an out of control teen and I need some help fast. My difficult child is 13,add and no medication ------------------ hopefl 47,married 27 yrs 1 adopted difficult child at birth, 13 add, poss.ODD ,no medications, Everything happens for a reason, and I am still searching for what my lesson is in this!