Hello, I am new to this forum. I have a 46 year old daughter who has failed to mature enough to support herself and live on her own. She refuses to see her responsiblities as hers and blames others for her failures. And when she is confronted with her responsibilities she has soooo many excuses, and cries and threatens suicide or throws guilt trips such as "I will just sleep in the streets". I have been in therapy for other issues concerning an addicted son who has been jailed for the 2nd time on a meth charge and so do realize that enabling is a bad thing. My problem is that after so much of this I have become drained and just want to walk away from family issues. The latest drama is that my daughter and her grown daughter have had a major blowup, resulting in a false report made to welfare on the children of my granddaughter, and now both my granddaughter and daughter are in a battle that both want me to take sides. I have told them both I will not take sides but because I have given my daughter a small amount of help in getting her belongings out of her daughters house, my granddaughter now includes me in her anger and has threatened me. I am trying to remain calm, and stay out of this. Inside I am miserable, but will be OK. I just wanted to share here and begin to reach out and hopefully get some support for myself here. I am not new to the idea of not enabling but this stuff can zap the crap out of people even when they are doing the right things. Any one out there that can respond?