Anyone have any suggestions as to how I can best work with my difficult child and her school re the hw issue. Background, has adhd, odd, depression, maybe bipolar, maybe eating disorder (binging only), soon to hope to start medications..plus has some Learning Disability (LD) issues re math and reading..........soooooooooooooo the only way to not make hw an issue in our house would be to leave it at school. Anyone out there done that within their iep? Otherwise it's the combined rage and meltdown because she's having difficulty with the work, doesn't want to ask for help from the teachers, then comes home and loses it, but at the same time, doesn't really want help with hw, most times just wants the answers instead. Really has a problem in putting any effort into her work, ie if its hard, rather rage for an hour than apply herself for 20 minutes, even though she is capable of some of that work and if she put some effort in, could accomplish it. Of late, her violence has escalated, and so I want to try to find a way for the homework to stay at school and only be completed there, to avoid the rage, but at the same time, I want for her to learn that in life, you have to put in effort. By that I mean, she needs to learn that she can't just rage and scream and avoid and get out of hard work throughout her life, and that by applying herself , she can accomplish goals. And I don't want her to think that the rules of life and school don't apply to her. Hence my quandary. All input greatly appreciated. by the way, 11 yo. Also, we've already been there done that with my not helping other than explaining directions with the hw, and if she doesn't understand it, for her to bring it back to speak with the teacher the next day. She has such a fear of other students or even the teacher thinking she's not smart that she'd rather cut off her own foot than admit she has a problem, then comes home and implodes and explodes on us.