I gave up a loooong time ago....
When I was single, my apartment was clean AND tidy. All the time.
When I got married, my house was usually clean, and mostly tidy.
When I had my first kid, my house was usually clean, and sometimes tidy.
After kids two and three, my house was occasionally clean, and rarely tidy.
So even though I've got a neat freak daughter, the other three AD/HDers have us outnumbered. It's great when a party or a holiday rolls around, because I'm able to summon the strength to really put a shine on everything around here because I know SOMEONE will enjoy it, if only for a few hours.
Take a picture, I always say, 'cuz it sure won't last!