NervousNelly
New Member
Hello everyone. This is my first post here. I've only been reading this forum for a few days, but everything is so relatable to me! I have a question for those that have been thru it, but let me give you a little background first.
My adult daughter is dual diagnosed-bi polar and drug addict. Her drug of choice at the moment is meth. I have only known about her meth use for a few months and just learned 2 days ago that her drug use spans the course of about 17 years. I'm still trying to absorb that and it hasn't completely sunk in yet. She has done many of the same things many of you have gone through; the lying, stealing, getting in your face yelling, etc etc. She can get violent when coming off the drug and we've had to call the police once because she was so out of control. She is currently unemployed, living at home and living off of unemployment. She had 2 arrests recently (her only 2) for possession, her license is suspended over unpaid tickets and her registration on her car has expired. She has been living at home since about Feb of this year. So far, she has made no attempt to pay the tickets to get her license back, no attempt to get the car registered so she can drive without being stopped, no real attempt to find work. She currently attends PC1000 classes (court ordered) and takes public transportation for that, however yesterday she started driving her car after having not driven it since her 1st arrest in May. She had a loser boyfriend who manipulated and stole from her and from my husband and I, tried to kill her at one point, got her hooked on meth and so on and so on.
Ok, I'm getting to my point.........I hear alot of you talking about making your kid leave the house for a variety of reasons. I am currently struggling with this tremendously. So much has happened, that it would be so much better if she found someplace else to live. However, she has one friend (literally...all the rest ran away) but she can't live with that friend. She has no place else to go but home but things just keep getting worse. How do I ask her to leave when she has no place to go? I will not have her homeless...I just can't do it. Can some of you share your experiences around this? It might help me. I haven't decided yet whether or not I will ask her to leave, but I am afraid it may come down to it sooner rather than later.
Any advice/suggestions/stories you can share would be much appreciated. Thanks so much.
My adult daughter is dual diagnosed-bi polar and drug addict. Her drug of choice at the moment is meth. I have only known about her meth use for a few months and just learned 2 days ago that her drug use spans the course of about 17 years. I'm still trying to absorb that and it hasn't completely sunk in yet. She has done many of the same things many of you have gone through; the lying, stealing, getting in your face yelling, etc etc. She can get violent when coming off the drug and we've had to call the police once because she was so out of control. She is currently unemployed, living at home and living off of unemployment. She had 2 arrests recently (her only 2) for possession, her license is suspended over unpaid tickets and her registration on her car has expired. She has been living at home since about Feb of this year. So far, she has made no attempt to pay the tickets to get her license back, no attempt to get the car registered so she can drive without being stopped, no real attempt to find work. She currently attends PC1000 classes (court ordered) and takes public transportation for that, however yesterday she started driving her car after having not driven it since her 1st arrest in May. She had a loser boyfriend who manipulated and stole from her and from my husband and I, tried to kill her at one point, got her hooked on meth and so on and so on.
Ok, I'm getting to my point.........I hear alot of you talking about making your kid leave the house for a variety of reasons. I am currently struggling with this tremendously. So much has happened, that it would be so much better if she found someplace else to live. However, she has one friend (literally...all the rest ran away) but she can't live with that friend. She has no place else to go but home but things just keep getting worse. How do I ask her to leave when she has no place to go? I will not have her homeless...I just can't do it. Can some of you share your experiences around this? It might help me. I haven't decided yet whether or not I will ask her to leave, but I am afraid it may come down to it sooner rather than later.
Any advice/suggestions/stories you can share would be much appreciated. Thanks so much.