It's been a hard 7 year journey that I'll try to sum up. Started with an out of control teenager. I think she has a borderline personality but no cutting or suicide attempts. Spent years in therapy, finally wilderness and a therapeutic boarding school. Returned home three years ago. For a few months we thought it was all worth it, huge expenses and sacrifice but we had our daughter back. She planned to go to college and we were only too happy to send her. A small private school where we thought she could thrive. 3 weeks before the start she decided she wasn't ready for college and moved out to live with friends. She went from one job to another, minimum wage but limped along with some financial help from us. Year 2 enrolled in the state University. We paid and supported her for a year. Semester 1 she passed 2 of 5 courses (c-). Semester 2 she dropped out without telling us after her boyfriend was arrested for dealing meth. Seemed she developed a meth habbit too. Also that year she managed to obtain twelve different credit cards and $15,000 debt all spent on drugs and junk. Now we're at year 3. She married boyfriend just before he left for prison while we were out of the country. She told us she planned to join the air force. Enlisted and had a date to leave 1/23. But told us she couldn't get in unless the debt was paid. We refused to pay it, but did allow her to use some money she had inherited to make monthly payments through a debt repayment program. She lied to my parents when we were gone saying her paycheck was stolen. They sent her $500 which she never paid back. We started seeing a psychologist who specialized in borderlines. She was working a minimum wage job and living with her mother in law. She could never make ends meet always calling $20/ for gas etc....Psychologist suggested give her some money each month, but no loans. It seemed to help our interactions. 1/23 came and went, no airforce. She said they checked her credit and disqualified her. Now we find out that she is pregnant and is back to using meth. She states it happened for a reason and this was her way of stopping drugs. Not sure who the father is, she states husband which is possible because he's now in 1/2 way house. Every other week they are together or breaking up. She states he doesn't know about pregnancy. She is not even close to being able to support herself much less a child. Yesterday she called and wanted to borrow $60. I told her no, we've been giving her $300/month and the rule was no other loans. She flipped and cussed at me and said we would never see her again and she didn't want anthing from us. I reminded her she was still driving our car etc....Bottom line, I really can't deal with this anymore. I dread at the thought of her having a child as she is not at all capable of standing on her own two feet. I suspect the money she wanted was for drugs although she said it wasn't and had another elaborate story. I still remember the child she was. Until 8th grade top student in her class, athletic and popular. I feel that child is dead. As horrible as it is if a child dies you have time to mourn and somehow can try to pick up the pieces of your life. I feel like I have watched her die a hundred times. There is never anytime to mourn, just try and sleep and head off to work and act like nothing has happened. I am so tired of the drama of her life. I am so sad to see a child who is so bright and has been given so much opportunity destroy their lives. I am unwilling and able to continue this type of relationship. If she has a child I fear it will only be worse. I just don't know what to do from here.