How do you look forward and say things will be ok? Right now I am having a hard time even seeing a productive future for my difficult child DD14. She is flunking out of H.S. right now, and does not care at all. We cannot get her to do any of her work. It is tearing me apart, not to mention what it is doing to my marriage and how it is impacting easy child DD17. My husband is about to lose it. His work is beyond stressful, and then he comes home to this. I am just at a loss on seeing a bright future. Each morning I wake up with a pit in my stomach wondering if I will be able to get her out the door, and what kind of battle it will take. Right now she is asleep, and I need her to get up to take a shower. And, then she will be up half the night not sleeping. And then the cycle will begin all over again. Sorry for being a downer. It is just no one in real life seems to understand what it is like to have to deal with this EVERYDAY. And how much of a toll it takes on you. I am so glad I found this site.