SuZir
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G.F.G seems to have lost any and all incentive to come up with something to occupy his time. He is on sick leave so this wouldn't be such a problem, if his default choice to kill time wouldn't be to come up with ways to be as disagreeable as possible. He still has almost three weeks of sick leave left and no idea what then, and this certainly is very demerital of mine and husband's health. He has picked up smoking again (he quit after G.F.G left home first time) and I need a very stiff gin tonic at evenings to calm my nerves.
Ache does have chores and some other things to do, but unfortunately he seems to still be as efficient as ever, when he gets to it, so by the time we get home from work, he is all done and ready to annoy us all evening. He does make us breakfast at the morning, does daily tiding up, carries the firewood and warms up the house, does some of my Christmas cleaning daily, prepares our dinner, goes to brush few of the sister in law's cows daily (it is the slowest time of the year also for her, she can't come up with much more work for Ache right now) and helps around a bit. I just volunteered him to help with rehabing one horse at the stables I go and he now goes there to walk that horse an hour or two at the woods and helps a little around otherwise. And he does keep up with exercising accordance of the schedule their trainer gave to him.
But still, every day when I come home, he seems to be already done and sitting there on my couch and ready and determined to pick up the fight. He cleans more pedantic than I, while he cooks dinners that tend to require only modest preparation time and then often long cooking time in oven, I can't really complain about that either. Those dinners are according our house rules. Nutritious, healthy, there is enough of it, they are on budget and everyone's preferences are reasonably accommodated. I can't really demand him to cook something that would take whole night to prepare, can I?
He refuses to have social life or leave the house on his own accord so the solution has been that we others leave, when it comes too much. Joy basically comes home to leave dirty clothes and pick up clean ones and eat at times. husband tries to come up with as much social obligations for himself as possible as do I. But it is cold, dark and wet outside with nothing to do there. There are only so many old friends I can call and ask to café with me to catch up, so much Christmas shopping to do, I can't move to gym permanently and let's face it; I need my downtime at home! And the moment I step in to my house, Ache is there to annoy me.
We are not ready to kick him out. Not at least before his sick leave is up (and it may very well continue, even after this stint) and especially because telling him to leave at this situation would only make him burden someone else. And he is our whelp so it would not be right to dump him to be someone else's toothache especially when he is like this. And he currently really doesn't have a place of his own and neither does he have an idea where his next stop will be. The team that he has contract with is more likely to loan him to someone else than keep him, of course depending his health. He is total merchandise for them and they are not likely thrilled if they end up being burden with his pay check, when they basically signed him to make money in loaning him out. They probably hope to have him back for few games to showcase him and then loaning him out to someone in need. They certainly don't want him there to recover and they having to pay a hotel room for him during that. And we don't want to send him there either. Especially when they, aside of the team doctor, think he is recovering mainly from concussion with maybe something mental/emotional mixed in, when in reality it is other way around.
And he is our kid and legitimately in need so we do not want to kick him out. Though we did decide and told him that however things turn out, he needs to have a plan for the future at Christmas. And staying indefinitely at home can't be part of that plan.
Ache does have chores and some other things to do, but unfortunately he seems to still be as efficient as ever, when he gets to it, so by the time we get home from work, he is all done and ready to annoy us all evening. He does make us breakfast at the morning, does daily tiding up, carries the firewood and warms up the house, does some of my Christmas cleaning daily, prepares our dinner, goes to brush few of the sister in law's cows daily (it is the slowest time of the year also for her, she can't come up with much more work for Ache right now) and helps around a bit. I just volunteered him to help with rehabing one horse at the stables I go and he now goes there to walk that horse an hour or two at the woods and helps a little around otherwise. And he does keep up with exercising accordance of the schedule their trainer gave to him.
But still, every day when I come home, he seems to be already done and sitting there on my couch and ready and determined to pick up the fight. He cleans more pedantic than I, while he cooks dinners that tend to require only modest preparation time and then often long cooking time in oven, I can't really complain about that either. Those dinners are according our house rules. Nutritious, healthy, there is enough of it, they are on budget and everyone's preferences are reasonably accommodated. I can't really demand him to cook something that would take whole night to prepare, can I?
He refuses to have social life or leave the house on his own accord so the solution has been that we others leave, when it comes too much. Joy basically comes home to leave dirty clothes and pick up clean ones and eat at times. husband tries to come up with as much social obligations for himself as possible as do I. But it is cold, dark and wet outside with nothing to do there. There are only so many old friends I can call and ask to café with me to catch up, so much Christmas shopping to do, I can't move to gym permanently and let's face it; I need my downtime at home! And the moment I step in to my house, Ache is there to annoy me.
We are not ready to kick him out. Not at least before his sick leave is up (and it may very well continue, even after this stint) and especially because telling him to leave at this situation would only make him burden someone else. And he is our whelp so it would not be right to dump him to be someone else's toothache especially when he is like this. And he currently really doesn't have a place of his own and neither does he have an idea where his next stop will be. The team that he has contract with is more likely to loan him to someone else than keep him, of course depending his health. He is total merchandise for them and they are not likely thrilled if they end up being burden with his pay check, when they basically signed him to make money in loaning him out. They probably hope to have him back for few games to showcase him and then loaning him out to someone in need. They certainly don't want him there to recover and they having to pay a hotel room for him during that. And we don't want to send him there either. Especially when they, aside of the team doctor, think he is recovering mainly from concussion with maybe something mental/emotional mixed in, when in reality it is other way around.
And he is our kid and legitimately in need so we do not want to kick him out. Though we did decide and told him that however things turn out, he needs to have a plan for the future at Christmas. And staying indefinitely at home can't be part of that plan.
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