First of all, being the mom of an autistic boy, I don't like the term "autistic idiot." Auties aren't idiots. They have thought differences, but that doesn't mean they are awful or idiots. Ok, moving past that. I'm just curious. What makes you think he's autistic? He doesn't really sound like it from the little that you posted. My Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) son is the most giving, bighearted child on earth. He has obsessions, but he's far from mean. He's kind and sweet. Do you have an understanding of Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD)? Unless he's been diagnosed by a neuropsychologist, I wouldn't jump to conclusions. Just don't want lurkers to think people with Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) are characteristically selfish or manipulative. They are more apt to be socially clueless (not maliciously so) with narrow, obsessive interests (computers is common) and very literal. They tend not to be big rule breakers. My son doesn't "get" money, but neither do I. For a while, they thought I may be on the spectrum, but I had extensive testing and I'm not, even though I have neurological differences. If your hub IS Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), it really isn't his fault that he doesn't "get it." He didn't have access to interventions back when he was young. I'm a little nervous when I hear "that's why he's so awful--he has Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD)." To be honest, I post on an Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) website, and it is really NOT characteristic of ASDers to lie. Most tell the truth even when you don't want them to...lol. "See that lady, Mom? Isn't she fat?" (blushing moment) Without extensive testing, Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) is hard to find. I just had the gamut of testing for the second time. Without testing though there is no way to point to any markers of neurological differences. Sounds like you need to take care of yourself too. Maybe it's a good idea to seek some help to get you through all this.