trinityroyal
Well-Known Member
DF, I'm another who feels your pain. My husband lost 225 lbs several years ago. He was within 25 lbs of his goal weight when he completely went off the wagon. He has since regained about 125 lbs. Still not as big as he started, but A LOT bigger than he should be.
My first thoughts when reading about your husband's behaviour were:
1) thyroid issues
2) sleep apnea
3) depression
4) some combination of 1, 2 and 3.
In any case, the eating is your husband's deal and he's the one who's going to have to sort it out for good or ill. Other than taking a hard line on things that affect the rest of the family (e.g. food budget, temperature in the house, etc.), I would leave him to sort it out.
Things you can do without constantly playing food cop:
Serve everyone the portion that they're supposed to eat, and pack away leftovers immediately. The crock pot is great for this as you can't really snack from it while the cooking is in progress.
Change the size of the dishes but don't mention it to husband. Just present it as a fait accompli. Get rid of the old, larger sized dishes entirely. If he complains, then he can find the money and time to go out and buy new dishes.
Get rid of all junk that crosses your threshold. If husband brings it in the house, toss it or give it away or otherwise get rid of it.
Replace all of the dairy with 1%. Enough fat that you're not getting the sugar overload that many "low-fat" products have, and not so thin that it's unpalatable like skim. Or, if the rest of you don't eat a lot of dairy, go all the way and get the diet stuff. Have you ever tasted low-fat cheese? It's the most disgusting substance ever. (Well, except for soy-based chocolate pudding...)
Anyway, if you stop letting husband's food issues drive you nuts, it will be easier for you to deal with them -- and him.
Sending many hugs,
Trinity
My first thoughts when reading about your husband's behaviour were:
1) thyroid issues
2) sleep apnea
3) depression
4) some combination of 1, 2 and 3.
In any case, the eating is your husband's deal and he's the one who's going to have to sort it out for good or ill. Other than taking a hard line on things that affect the rest of the family (e.g. food budget, temperature in the house, etc.), I would leave him to sort it out.
Things you can do without constantly playing food cop:
Serve everyone the portion that they're supposed to eat, and pack away leftovers immediately. The crock pot is great for this as you can't really snack from it while the cooking is in progress.
Change the size of the dishes but don't mention it to husband. Just present it as a fait accompli. Get rid of the old, larger sized dishes entirely. If he complains, then he can find the money and time to go out and buy new dishes.
Get rid of all junk that crosses your threshold. If husband brings it in the house, toss it or give it away or otherwise get rid of it.
Replace all of the dairy with 1%. Enough fat that you're not getting the sugar overload that many "low-fat" products have, and not so thin that it's unpalatable like skim. Or, if the rest of you don't eat a lot of dairy, go all the way and get the diet stuff. Have you ever tasted low-fat cheese? It's the most disgusting substance ever. (Well, except for soy-based chocolate pudding...)
Anyway, if you stop letting husband's food issues drive you nuts, it will be easier for you to deal with them -- and him.
Sending many hugs,
Trinity