Tonight we drove the boys to my moms for the weekend. He was driving extremely fast and swirving in & out of traffic. I asked if everyone was buckled in and MT said no. husband screamed at him "why arent you buckled?" and MT said the buckle piece is missing. We have a van and the seat folds and if you dont unfold it properly the seatbelt falls out. Anyway, husband pulls over two lanes of traffic and stops on the side of the freeway. Helps get the seatbelt fixed and continues to drive fast. MT says "I'm sorry dad, but there wasnt a buckle." husband replied "Dont talk to me." The boys school counselor advised me to get out of this situation soon, she spoke with the boys earlier today. She feels he will snap. So, now I am scrambling to find funds to get us to a safer environment out of state. I am giving stuff away and really prioritizing the things that are important to take. I feel if I stay in this state we will continue the on again off again relationship.