Everything I said was wrong...everything that comes out my mouth is not important...I am stupid and can't do anything! (so my son thinks and says all the time - 17yr old difficult child) I let him leave this past July because he would fight (not with fists but with his words...I am stupid...I am a ... off...and much more...so he says and a few times almost fists on his part - he is the oldest and I have already seen the younger ones following his lead) but I had him move in with my sister and gave him his child support to pay room and board and the rest was his...I thought she would watch out for him...little did I know she was messing around with drugs and flaking out totally!!! She was never home and he went from 200 lbs. @ 6'2" to 160 lbs. cause she was never home to fix meals. So he went from a basically a stay-at-home kinda momma to on his own!!! Her 16 yr old son has been getting in trouble with the law and her 16 yr old daughter is giving birth in December! I messed up...I thought she just couldn't control them but it was her being out of control that messed them up!!! I can't change time...so I move forward... I couldn't take him home here cause of a few reasons: 1 - he didn't want to come...we live too far in the country for his liking... 2 - him and I would start fighting again cause he is so rude to me and treats me like most of the time (other times he is the best child you could ever know) 3 - hubby and him would have had it out the first time he was mean to me in front of hubby So I asked my husband's ex-wife (I know this is going to sound odd but I want my son safe) if she would take him...my step-son lives there and they are like real brothers not step-brothers. And she agreed! She is a good person with the kids...she treats them good and watches out for them! They go to school and my son takes his medications as he should! Things were moving forward... He asked to spend the night at his cousin's house (the one who is having the baby) and I figured it would be okay because she isn't living with my sister but with the babies father (who was a friend of my son's) and his momma. I figured things would be safe...guess I figured wrong as always...and so didn't my husband's ex-wife cause we both said it was okay (I made him call and ask her cause he lives with her...he was with me at that time)... Come to find out...my sister's boyfriend bought a 5th of Vodka for someone (my sister says it was for her daughter's boyfriend's mother) but the kids drank it...so one or the other bought it for them...either my sister's boyfriend or her daughter's boyfriend's mother! My son who is on medications got so drunk he was puking everywhere, was sitting on the porch swing naked (and he hates getting in his boxers in front of people let alone naked), and someone (him or someone else which I swear it was someone else cause he couldn't do it that well - the eyebrow part) shaved his eyebrows almost off and burned the top of his foot so bad the skin came off the whole top of his foot so bad that he has to go to the burn center this coming Monday! And my son said they (his "friends") have joked around before and have burned people but NEVER this bad! And trust me it was nasty!!! I took papers out on my son but because he doesn't want to kill anyone or himself (what do you call drinking a 5th of vodka when you take Lithium...)they wont put him some where to get some help!!!! He wont go anywhere on his own and he will be 18 come next May...I need advice or someone to tell me what I can and cannot do...PLEASE!!!! I am scared for my son's life because of himself!!!