We spoke to our lawyer in regards to our difficult child son children. If his ex continues to not let us see the kids for the month of Aug, because of the chance mtg btwn my difficult child and his daughter then the ex fiance will be found in contempt. It is her new boyfriend that she lives with that screens her calls, and takes all the calls on her cell phone. He is even not letting my easy child daughter that is home on leave to see the kids because "Thye havent heard back from the lawyer". My lawyer said that is just a bunch of bull, adn that he runs across her lawyer all the time and nothing is said.
Now my difficult child son after this above issue recieves a letter fron CPS about his outstanding amt of support due on the twins, and that he is in contempt' His 3 children are pain child support in 2 diff counties. The counties refused to lump them in one. The one county always sends hjim notices, and the other county that his ex his files through does not. He has been instructed to come up with the money, do volunteer work? and maybe when he goes to court they may not throw him into jail. I told him as long as he is truely working and the money has been paid to the two counties the last 2 months that I doubt the judge wil throw him in jail during his working hours, but he may have to spend time there around working hours or the weekends. I agree that he should pay his child support, but this has her new boyfriend name all written over this. I hope in retrospect now that she cont to refuse us in seeing our grandkids in Aug because, we then will file contempt on her. We let her go the last time in exchange in letting us see the kids , but this time I will not. She is obvviously in a controlled situation, and she needs to let him know he doesnt run the roost. Our lawyer says that he cannot even dictate our visits even if they get married. We will see how it all plays out and specifics will be written out at that time.
As for my easy child daughter that is in the service she is giving me just about as much grief. Until she can figure out how she wants to run her life, she has placed all on hold. She thinks she want a divorce from her hubby that she has been debating about since last OCT. In the meantime she has had no responsibilities except to the service. She is home on leave, adn she has went up twice to where they used to live to see friends, managed to total her car( in a area in the dark that she was not famaliar with), barely talks to her husband, because she feels awkward about ti, and at the sametime they get mad at each other for the way one another acts towards the other? They have over draft on their checking acct? and their only bills, is a life insurance for son, car payments, gas, food, and usual spending money. They make more now then they did before when they had more bills. Now she isnt sure she wants to stay her the whole 14 days, or that we should have a going away aprty for her. She goes back to Missouri, then goes to Washington afdter that. She wants to set up housing for her and her son untils she is deployed. She hasnt even spent 24 hours here and care for him eityher.
I am so disappointed in my kids right now. YOu would think one of two would be my salvation that what I gave up in my lifetime would had made it all worth while. In many respects, even though my husband is a good man, they are very much like him in that respect.
Jen
Now my difficult child son after this above issue recieves a letter fron CPS about his outstanding amt of support due on the twins, and that he is in contempt' His 3 children are pain child support in 2 diff counties. The counties refused to lump them in one. The one county always sends hjim notices, and the other county that his ex his files through does not. He has been instructed to come up with the money, do volunteer work? and maybe when he goes to court they may not throw him into jail. I told him as long as he is truely working and the money has been paid to the two counties the last 2 months that I doubt the judge wil throw him in jail during his working hours, but he may have to spend time there around working hours or the weekends. I agree that he should pay his child support, but this has her new boyfriend name all written over this. I hope in retrospect now that she cont to refuse us in seeing our grandkids in Aug because, we then will file contempt on her. We let her go the last time in exchange in letting us see the kids , but this time I will not. She is obvviously in a controlled situation, and she needs to let him know he doesnt run the roost. Our lawyer says that he cannot even dictate our visits even if they get married. We will see how it all plays out and specifics will be written out at that time.
As for my easy child daughter that is in the service she is giving me just about as much grief. Until she can figure out how she wants to run her life, she has placed all on hold. She thinks she want a divorce from her hubby that she has been debating about since last OCT. In the meantime she has had no responsibilities except to the service. She is home on leave, adn she has went up twice to where they used to live to see friends, managed to total her car( in a area in the dark that she was not famaliar with), barely talks to her husband, because she feels awkward about ti, and at the sametime they get mad at each other for the way one another acts towards the other? They have over draft on their checking acct? and their only bills, is a life insurance for son, car payments, gas, food, and usual spending money. They make more now then they did before when they had more bills. Now she isnt sure she wants to stay her the whole 14 days, or that we should have a going away aprty for her. She goes back to Missouri, then goes to Washington afdter that. She wants to set up housing for her and her son untils she is deployed. She hasnt even spent 24 hours here and care for him eityher.
I am so disappointed in my kids right now. YOu would think one of two would be my salvation that what I gave up in my lifetime would had made it all worth while. In many respects, even though my husband is a good man, they are very much like him in that respect.
Jen