I am so proud of my

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by timer lady, Dec 5, 2007.

  1. timer lady

    timer lady Queen of Hearts

    son wm. Our first visit since the end of June was emotional & heart lifting.

    wm was, understandably, upset at my new appearance; how this illness has affected my body. He's scared.

    For the first time in a very very long time, if ever, I saw true emotions out of my son. wm & I got to share moments of fear, love & laughter.

    He left the room so he wouldn't cry in front of me; he didn't want me to be concerned. His Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) therapist went with wm & helped him work through all the sadness & emotion.

    I had to work through some emotions of my own with our attachment/adoption specialist. It was a long & draining session.

    As the tears cleared I got to ask wm about one of his favorite topics - games for his gameboy. I am using a gameboy to help with coordination & other issues. wm has promised to research games that I would enjoy (definitely not Zelda, mom). I'll believe you son.

    The most emotional part of our appointment. wm & his therapist asked if they could walk me out to my car & help with my walker. I gladly accepted; wm walked down the stairs in front of me - holding onto my walker to make sure I didn't fall on the icy sidewalks. From there he walked on my side - again holding on to my arm & my walker.

    Again there were grins & tears from attachment/adoption specialist, Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) therapist & myself. wm was too involved & concerned to notice.

    kt & wm have their first visit next Wednesday with their Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) tdocs & attachment/adoption therapist. We expect things to get worse before they get better however neither husband or I will be at these meetings for a few months. It's all about teaching the tweedles to be safe siblings with one another.

    Thank you for all the good thoughts & prayers on wm's behalf. Today he made me proud; today I saw true emotion - love out of my son's eyes.
  2. mrscatinthehat

    mrscatinthehat Seussical

    I am soooo happy for you. The image of him helping you to your brought tears to my eyes. I am so glad it went well. One major step in a very long journey.

    I am sending hugs to all your family (though only you will know that). I feel proud of wm for you. It warms the heart on this very cold day.

  3. Penta

    Penta New Member

    Truly uplifting that your son was able to show compassion and love toward you. What a guy! Your heart must be so full.
  4. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Well-Known Member

    He's such a good boy! :its_all_good:
  5. Estherfromjerusalem

    Estherfromjerusalem Well-Known Member


    Your post brought tears to my eyes, as I pictured him helping you. You are such a warrior mom!

    Love, Esther
  6. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful


    I am so happy for you and for wm. Savor this visit. :its_all_good: He's come a long way.

  7. witzend

    witzend Well-Known Member

    I'm glad to hear that it went so well, Linda. It's been a long road with wm.
  8. meowbunny

    meowbunny New Member

    What a huge step for him! I'm sorry it had to come at such a high cost to your health, but you have to be happy for his empathy.
  9. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I couldn't be happier for you-like others it brought tears to my eyes. I hope there are many more days like this! Hugs.
  10. mstang67chic

    mstang67chic Going Green

    :bravo: :flower:

    What a wonderful visit!!!

    And for your Gameboy, I recommend Spyro, Crash Bandicoot and Harry Potter games. (I think they make those for Gameboy....we have them for the Playstation.......er...rather I do. :bag: )
  11. flutterbee

    flutterbee Guest

    I'm so happy to hear this, Linda. I was worried about how your visit would go (as I got the impression you were, too). I'm sure your mommy heart just swelled with pride today.

  12. ML

    ML Guest

    That is both beautiful and touching. Thank you so much for sharing this. Hugs, MicheleL
  13. timer lady

    timer lady Queen of Hearts

    Again thank you all for the prayers & positive thoughts for wm; for the whole of my little family. Believe it or not it really does make a difference in the tweedle household.

    This has been a slow undertaking - I want it done NOW! :smile: and that is not going to happen. So we keep plugging along. Maybe, just maybe, when the tweedles are older they will understand the concept of family. They will trust again.

    Have a good day - find time for yourselves. :painter:
  14. LittleDudesMom

    LittleDudesMom Well-Known Member Staff Member

    :angel: well it brought tears to my eyes as well :angel:

    I'm glad the visit went well and wm was way more than just appropriate.

  15. Big Bad Kitty

    Big Bad Kitty lolcat

    Your post brought tears to my eyes too.

    Your tweedles are so blessed to have you. One day, they will see it.
  16. Kjs

    Kjs Guest

    How touching. I can just picture it. What a wonderful young man.
  17. crazymama30

    crazymama30 Active Member

    Wow. That is great. I really do not know what else to say. :dance:
  18. Star*

    Star* call 911........call 911


    Did anyone prepare wm for your "new look" or did he just get the shock value up close and personal? I'm sure that had to be hard for him and you.

    The moments we have with our children like this are priceless. It lets us believe that our work is not for nothing and that they are human deep down after all.

    I'm glad it was a good visit for everyone. I loved the part where he doesn't leave your side. Precious memory for sure.

    Hugs -
  19. hearts and roses

    hearts and roses Mind Reader

    Linda, what an amazing visit you had - I'm so happy for you, your post brought tears of pride and joy to my eyes. Wow. Cherish this memorable day!
  20. Steely

    Steely Active Member

    WOW............just wow is all I can say. I am deeply moved. I pray and hope wm continues on his journey of maturity, and begins to learn how to sustain this in a consistent fashion.