A bit of background: Right now we are really working on difficult child not swearing and calling us rude names. difficult child's therapist set up this program where if he makes it an hour (yes an hour) of not swearing at us he gets to pick a slip of paper from a jar. Some slips say, "good job" or "Way To Go" things like that. Others say he has earned 1/2 hour of game time. Some say he gets a new book or he gets $1.00. When we were setting this up we decided to put in no physical aggression as well (even though it has greatly declined my fear was if he couldn't be verbally abusive he would be physically aggressive). So now to my story-Tonight I was telling him his hour was starting. He wanted me to remind him besides swearing what else he couldn't do. I told him no disrespect and no physical aggression. He replied, "I don't do the physical stuff anymore." I know it may seem small but I was very excited that he is seeing himself as not doing it (physical aggession really has decreased although he had an incident last Friday). If he doesn't see himself this way I think it is a step in the right direction!