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Weary for Hope
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I haven't posted for months - but I don't know where to turn. My husband and I live in an abusive relationship where we are bullied, physically asaulted and verbally abused. (The **** YOU!! Text is the LEAST of my worries) At times difficult child can be really sweet, but he is scary and unpredictable and it is absolutely draining the life out of us. He attacked me 2 1/2 wks ago and the bruise is finally almost invisible. He attacked my husband yesterday right before he got on the bus, throwing a hockey stick that just missed his head, among doing other things.
We still haven't gotten a diagnosis for him. Started a new therapist on Friday, further away. (difficult child almost didn't go). Today husband and I see her and she will refer us to a psychiatrist. Our son saw one once before (this was the psychiatrist that upon first meeting him asked him to draw a picture and then shredded it right in front of him - and told us, in front of him that he suspects mild BiPolar (BP).
We have called 911 a few times and the time they made him take the ambulance, we got a huge bill for the ambulance and the few hours at the hospital that we still haven't been able to pay. (and they didn't do a darn thing for him). There is a number 211 that I can call here, but once they refused to come because he was violent (???) (it is emergency psychiatric services. Last night he got crazy again and I called 211 and he coerced me into hanging up (terrible, I know, but it is scary being alone with him and I was just trying to stay safe).
Help is taking so long to get here. Even if we get a psychiatric referral today - how much longer are we going to have to wait for life to not be so horrible? I know medication isn't everything and it takes so long to get figured out. People have warned me about that.
Is there a place he can go - away from us where we will be safe? Is there such thing as an emergency psychiatric evaluation? This is getting worse and worse. He is manipulative, controlling, disrespectful and abusive. It is tearing our lives and our marriage apart.
Thanks for any ideas you offer.
-Weary for Hope
We still haven't gotten a diagnosis for him. Started a new therapist on Friday, further away. (difficult child almost didn't go). Today husband and I see her and she will refer us to a psychiatrist. Our son saw one once before (this was the psychiatrist that upon first meeting him asked him to draw a picture and then shredded it right in front of him - and told us, in front of him that he suspects mild BiPolar (BP).
We have called 911 a few times and the time they made him take the ambulance, we got a huge bill for the ambulance and the few hours at the hospital that we still haven't been able to pay. (and they didn't do a darn thing for him). There is a number 211 that I can call here, but once they refused to come because he was violent (???) (it is emergency psychiatric services. Last night he got crazy again and I called 211 and he coerced me into hanging up (terrible, I know, but it is scary being alone with him and I was just trying to stay safe).
Help is taking so long to get here. Even if we get a psychiatric referral today - how much longer are we going to have to wait for life to not be so horrible? I know medication isn't everything and it takes so long to get figured out. People have warned me about that.
Is there a place he can go - away from us where we will be safe? Is there such thing as an emergency psychiatric evaluation? This is getting worse and worse. He is manipulative, controlling, disrespectful and abusive. It is tearing our lives and our marriage apart.
Thanks for any ideas you offer.
-Weary for Hope