I too am detaching. I can feel it happening. God knows me well enough to know that, in order for me to stop, he had to take her to another state and her not speak to me to end the enabling. It's nice to take a deep breath and know that all is as it needs to be. When and if this situation ends, I too will be very cautious in my dealings with her. I want my life to be peaceful and happy and the only way is to let her go. Now for some fun!!!!!!