I've felt it - for both my 9 yr old and 4.5 yr old. Pure rage and hatred, resentment, emotional, disgust, hurt and most of all heartbroken, guilt, shame toward myself, the why does it feel like I'm a crappy mom all the time, depression, even confusion (why do they do what they do, don't they care, don't they think before they do it, say it).
My 4.5 yr old has illicit some pretty crazy feelings of pure rage out of me at times. The 9 yr old less frequently. BIG BIG HUGS. When you are ready on your own terms you will be able to vent fully about it and we will be here to listen.