I need to find a place to buy patience

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by barbie, Mar 12, 2008.

  1. barbie

    barbie MOM of 3

    Since Eric being let go from his daycare on friday he been let go from one other. AFTER THREE HOURS. Eric is to me and with me a very hyper just happy boy, not aggressive. Today he started at what is now 8th daycare in 8 months and I am so hoping and praying to all the gods that he does well enough to start his IEP there and get he ball rolling. All I know is its been about three straight days where I cant sleep, and haven't eaten in two, feel like Im the one breaking down, I feel like I should understand why he does these things and how i can get him to stop, but if someone wrote parenting manuals had a kid like mine to tell me what disciple can I do if everytime i scream, i'm scared cps is coming and if i do nothing i'm being negligent and its still my fault. Ho do I teach him when something is wrong? How can I do it before I have my first ever mental breakdown.'?????????????
  2. SomewhereOutThere

    SomewhereOutThere Well-Known Member

    I forgot your story. Forgive me. Has your son been evaluated by a good professional? Any testing? Until you know what's wrong, it's hard to know what to do...and it's hard to diagnose very young kids. Our kids rarely respond to typical discipline.
  3. barbie

    barbie MOM of 3

    He is diagnosed with ADHD, destructive behaviors, developmental delays, speech delays, social/ adaptive delay, asthma, eczema, multiple food allergies, outdoor allergies. We see a psychiatrist on 03/26, but he has been seen by the county school system and diagnosed as above. We've been working with a behavior specialist and starts his IEP in a school next week, maybe week after since they have to arrange transportation.
  4. SRL

    SRL Active Member

    Hopefully getting some structured school time will improve things for him.

    I'm so sorry for you in the interim! The daycare situation is such a problem for these little guys and I just don't know what the answer is.
  5. GinAndTonic

    GinAndTonic New Member

    I'm sorry, barbiealonso. I don't know what to tell you, but you're certainly not alone. We were lucky that it took only two preschools before my difficult child got into a Special Education preschool, but he's certainly burned through his share of soccer classes, playgroups, etc.

    Eat something! Have a sandwich! Get a Clif Bar! Something! You need the energy to deal with this all.
  6. Lulu

    Lulu New Member

    Oh my goodness. I hope you are feeling better by now. I, too, know exactly how you feel at finding EVERY SINGLE THING you try to use as discipline just doesn't work!!! Have you found a copy of The Explosive Child yet? It helped me rethink what was really important for my boy to do. And Bernstein's 10 Days to a Less Defiant Child helped me in a few other areas, notably--raising my voice! Good luck, hon.