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Here we go again!
We went to his water polo team's BBQ at the school pool this evening. He just continues to do things that are socially awkward and annoying, so it's no wonder kids start to turn away and even get hostile. He hangs on the goal (big no-no in EVERY SPORT HE'S EVER PLAYED), he's horsing around trying to push people in, he gets in the way and doesn't know when to shut up. AAAARRRGGGH! And when it was time to go, he was SO mad at how the kids started to treat him he started venting to me and was headed towards a tantrum on the pool deck. Had to grit my teeth and tell him that this was NOT. THE. PLACE. And he yelled WHERE THEN!!! So I pointed out towards the parking lot and said "when we leave." But I should have been more specific and said "when we get in the car" or "when we get home," because he started on his tirade as we walked to the car (with other kids around, etc.) and I had to tell him again NOT. THE. PLACE. Which made him more angry because I hadn't been specific before.
By the time we got in the car I lost my patience and pretty much told him the cold hard truth, that when he acts "different" and doesn't think about how his behavior affects others, kids are going to react and they aren't going to like it and they aren't going to want to be around him. I should have just stopped there, but I continued with examples of his behavior, and I told him he was behaving immaturely and not thinking and a few other things that weren't very pleasant. Bad mommy.
He's calmed down now, but I think that's one of the first times he and I have had an argument where he was really that mad at me (unlike difficult child 1 where it was a daily event for years). I definitely could have handled this better.
I really hoped having him get involved in a sport at the start of high school would be a good thing -- and hopefully it will eventually turn out that way. But right now it feels like a bumpy start
By the time we got in the car I lost my patience and pretty much told him the cold hard truth, that when he acts "different" and doesn't think about how his behavior affects others, kids are going to react and they aren't going to like it and they aren't going to want to be around him. I should have just stopped there, but I continued with examples of his behavior, and I told him he was behaving immaturely and not thinking and a few other things that weren't very pleasant. Bad mommy.
He's calmed down now, but I think that's one of the first times he and I have had an argument where he was really that mad at me (unlike difficult child 1 where it was a daily event for years). I definitely could have handled this better.
I really hoped having him get involved in a sport at the start of high school would be a good thing -- and hopefully it will eventually turn out that way. But right now it feels like a bumpy start