I am strongly considering asking the school for a MFE for my difficult child. I have spoken to a friend who works in Special Education, and she stated that my difficult child might possibly get one for ED (emotionally disturbed). For those unfamiliar, TG has big time issues with anger/frustration/panic/anxiety/embarrassment. She will lash out verbally and physically, sometimes (often lately) hitting other children and even her teacher. She will throw things (pencils, crayons, papers, light weight books) and scream and have meltdowns. This is disruptive to her learning process and those of the other students. Her actual diagnosis is ADHD/anxiety. My concern is that she would not fit the criteria for IEP or 504 and by requesting such, I would make matters worse. The school is being helpful and working with me, but they do tend to see it as behavioral first and "disability" second, not the other way around. I'm starting to think that the only way to have them recognize the disability being the cause of the behavior is through the MFE. Could I get some thoughts or advice? Maybe some more questions to ask myself or observations to make regarding my daughter in order to know if this would be a good idea going in? Also, I've heard that "labeling is bad" and "she'll have that label for her whole school career." How much of a stigma is the "label" and does anyone have any thoughts on that?