klmno
Active Member
No this isn't about the past- it's about the future.
If you had to choose between 1) your difficult child coming home after pulling a knife on you twice and being locked up a few months with the only mental health treatment being "about the behavior that got him in there", after he told the judge he was afraid to come home because he was afraid he'd do something else to get locked up and he told his defense attny something that lead the attny to believe he could do this again, and when he came home your lives would be controlled by people who blame you (the parent) for the kid's problems and tell the kid and you that you are to blame (which only makes the difficult child less controllable) and make requirements of you that you know you probably can't meet but if you do meet, you won't be able to meet your other obligations, and you know when you tried living under conditions similar but not quite as bad before you and your difficult child both deteriorated and you know that next time, your throat might be slit
and...
2) your difficult child goes to an estranged relative that neither of you like, that has already stated will let a teen drink, do drugs, and have sex, and will more than likely result in your difficult child being molested either by this relative, his lover, or one of his friends
What would you do? (And you can't afford an attny and the difficult child is 14yo)
If you had to choose between 1) your difficult child coming home after pulling a knife on you twice and being locked up a few months with the only mental health treatment being "about the behavior that got him in there", after he told the judge he was afraid to come home because he was afraid he'd do something else to get locked up and he told his defense attny something that lead the attny to believe he could do this again, and when he came home your lives would be controlled by people who blame you (the parent) for the kid's problems and tell the kid and you that you are to blame (which only makes the difficult child less controllable) and make requirements of you that you know you probably can't meet but if you do meet, you won't be able to meet your other obligations, and you know when you tried living under conditions similar but not quite as bad before you and your difficult child both deteriorated and you know that next time, your throat might be slit
and...
2) your difficult child goes to an estranged relative that neither of you like, that has already stated will let a teen drink, do drugs, and have sex, and will more than likely result in your difficult child being molested either by this relative, his lover, or one of his friends
What would you do? (And you can't afford an attny and the difficult child is 14yo)
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