So, I've posted before that I have a pretty close relationship with my sister in law (husband's sister). She is truly a great person who loves us all dearly and wants to help. Although she has a very busy life with 4 teens/tweens and her own major health issues, she has offered to take difficult child in to live with them for a few weeks, with the distant possibility of it becoming a permanent thing. I am floored by this and am not really knowing what to think other than wow, that's a LOT to put on your plate! difficult child is not exactly having success in her new school - she is passing but just barely, even with 3 daily tutoring/help sessions (only 1 on Fridays). The situation with her behavior at home is about the same, although she has been pretty good since we got home from Christmas vacation (during which she was absolutely atrocious, particularly towards me, until she got her Kindle Fire for Christmas and had to depend on me to open the parental controls so she could install apps! After that she was better, but still not pleasant). She stayed 4 nights at sister in law's house after we got home, and they said that she was very well behaved, even on days when she forgot to take her medications! I know why - she overheard sister in law talk to mother in law about her going to stay at sister in law's. The kid can be good when she wants something! I don't know if husband will go for it, but we shall see. Right now I'm all for it because what we've got going on is neither working nor healthy - difficult child is full of anger and resentment toward both her dad and me; I am stressed, overwhelmed, and my mental and physical health are suffering because of it. Something's gotta give. sister in law knows that just about the only thing now standing between difficult child and a therapeutic boarding school is for difficult child to live with them. There are several issues with the TBS option, cost being one of them (inlaws would pay for it, but they would also hold it over our heads in a bad way. husband works for his dad in the family business, and it could get ugly). It would be a good placement for difficult child - brother in law and sister in law are very good parents, very structured, very loving but also very strict. Plus, and this is a HUGE plus, difficult child doesn't harbor anger and resentment towards them, which is the main issue making things hellish at home. So anyway. I talked to sister in law today about it, about difficult child "honeymooning," and she gets it. difficult child wants to go stay with them - what she doesn't realize is that if this happens, then she will have to follow ALL the same rules that her cousins do. She won't be happy with it, but I think it would be good for her. I know it would be good for us.