so difficult child returned home from her one day excursion with dad. She returned in the same clothes she left in, I also found out she slept with them on as well. I have spoken to ex regarding hygiene and even though it's just a day the importance of staying ontop of it and making sure she at least changes her clothes before bed. Than difficult child proceeds to tell me how grandma (ex mother in law) taught her how to use knives?? hmmm she apparentley taught difficult child how to cut tomatoes and other things with knives, not small butter knives from what difficult child said one big huge knife and showed me the size out of our knife thing and one small one. Who teaches a child how to use a knife? I cannot believe, i mean come on she's 9. Also, i always ask him how it went did she have anxiety etc.? his famous answer is she was just fine. So, difficult child tonight tells me how each time she leaves dad she is sick to her stomach, in the bathroom, etc. obviously experiencing anxiety. Yet he does not share with-me. Than she tells me how dad let her sit in the front seat because she didn't feel well for a two hour drive on a highway. What is he thinking?? I had to confront him tongiht on all of it. I know he thinks i'm just being difficult yet teaching child how to use knives, placing her in the front seat of car at 9 years old for two hour drive on highway and letting her stay in the same clothes for two days? not acceptable. am i wrong here? i don't think so. thoughts???