Deanna Ronalda
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hello everyone!
I have 13 year old stepdaughter(SD) that we are losing as her mother has decided to move her away. Rather than take it to trial, we decided to just let her go... for most of her life she has been a difficult child... very reactive to sounds ands smells, can't control her emotions very well and for the past 2 years, unempathetic and unkind like I have never seen. I wanted to attribute it to teen angst BUT it is abnormal. Her father and I are devastated at losing her but she has not shown us any affection or kindness or compassion. She is stone cold, shows no emotion and is unkind. She has no friends to speak of and is VERY mean and rude to any adult she encounters. She goes to therapy and the only reason she is staying with the therapist she has now is because this one will not rock the boat. Has all of us tiptoeing around her lest we set her off.
She stopped sleeping at our house last year around the time her mother started talking about the move. That was also the time she became interested in why her parents broke up. Her mother told her a lot of terrible things and we believe that fueled her hatred of us. I guess.
But I would find her googling things like, how to fake being sick, how to pretend to have a panic attack, and a few things that really struck me as really messed up. Her therapist has her pegged as anti social with anxiety disorder and she said she refused to sleep at her house because she was afraid of her father and our house. Her father is a very kind, good man who is a very good father and our house is unscary, clean, and orderly.
I feel manipulated. I feel like she has us all running around while she does nothing but play mine craft. She doesn't even go to a real school, but a school that has no curriculum so she has no homework, she has not after 'school' activities, she has no friends, and she spends all her time sleeping or playing mind craft or having her computer read her My little pony fan fiction. When we try to talk to her about being rude, she starts to cry and hyperventilate to get us to stop talking and she never wants to talk about her emotions or ours. She does not care for any or how they hurt save for herself. She has said that if something makes her feel bad, she does not want to hear it. I find her behaviour odd, scary and unsettling. I can't tell if she's going to be in big trouble as an adult or if I am making a huge deal out of a slightly odd child.
anyway... any insight would be helpful. I am happy to give you a zillion more examples if you need, but this is her in a nutshell.
I have 13 year old stepdaughter(SD) that we are losing as her mother has decided to move her away. Rather than take it to trial, we decided to just let her go... for most of her life she has been a difficult child... very reactive to sounds ands smells, can't control her emotions very well and for the past 2 years, unempathetic and unkind like I have never seen. I wanted to attribute it to teen angst BUT it is abnormal. Her father and I are devastated at losing her but she has not shown us any affection or kindness or compassion. She is stone cold, shows no emotion and is unkind. She has no friends to speak of and is VERY mean and rude to any adult she encounters. She goes to therapy and the only reason she is staying with the therapist she has now is because this one will not rock the boat. Has all of us tiptoeing around her lest we set her off.
She stopped sleeping at our house last year around the time her mother started talking about the move. That was also the time she became interested in why her parents broke up. Her mother told her a lot of terrible things and we believe that fueled her hatred of us. I guess.
But I would find her googling things like, how to fake being sick, how to pretend to have a panic attack, and a few things that really struck me as really messed up. Her therapist has her pegged as anti social with anxiety disorder and she said she refused to sleep at her house because she was afraid of her father and our house. Her father is a very kind, good man who is a very good father and our house is unscary, clean, and orderly.
I feel manipulated. I feel like she has us all running around while she does nothing but play mine craft. She doesn't even go to a real school, but a school that has no curriculum so she has no homework, she has not after 'school' activities, she has no friends, and she spends all her time sleeping or playing mind craft or having her computer read her My little pony fan fiction. When we try to talk to her about being rude, she starts to cry and hyperventilate to get us to stop talking and she never wants to talk about her emotions or ours. She does not care for any or how they hurt save for herself. She has said that if something makes her feel bad, she does not want to hear it. I find her behaviour odd, scary and unsettling. I can't tell if she's going to be in big trouble as an adult or if I am making a huge deal out of a slightly odd child.
anyway... any insight would be helpful. I am happy to give you a zillion more examples if you need, but this is her in a nutshell.