Help! Anyone! I always knew something was not quite right, but could never get anyone to confirm it. He was language delayed and really didn't speak at all until 2 or 2.5. he was a heavy drooler and started some speech therapy at 3. He had no interest in letters at all and would really resist when we tried to get him to look at them. He is very good at math. He didn't seem to have a lot of friends, but his Montessori preschool didn't have a lot of boys in his class his age. We moved him to public kindergarten so that he would be force fed some phonics and letters and he would have more boys his age in his class. My son was progressing (fairly) well until just recently. Reading and writing was still very tough, but he did make a few more friends. Not a lot, but a few. He is a very big, physical and athletic kid and his situation is made worse by the fact that he outweighs all the kids in his class by 20 lbs. When he roughhouses, he can really hurt someone, so I am always cautioning him about this. First grade rolled around this year and things were a little bumpy but not bad. Reading was still a big issue, as was attitude in the class about reading. A couple of conferences with the school and we decided that a private tutor was the way to go. His reading is better, but in the last month, his behavior has taken a really bad turn. Suddenly, he has started to really defy and resist many requests. A simple request of "Brush your teeth" is met with "NO!, SHUT UP!". Lots of aggressive bumps and hitting. Like I said, he was never a perfect child, but he was never THIS. At first, we were really saddened and shocked by his behavior and now we are just OVER IT. I'm still stunned by the seemingly sudden onset. Has anybody else seen this? He just turned 7 in November. Is this just a phase? We have read "The Explosive Child" and "What Your Defiant Child is Trying To Tell You". Frankly, I would be exhausted by all the bucket A, B and C stuff. I'm more inclined to a firm line followed by relevant consequences and loss of priviledges, a la The Defiant Child. Any comments appreciated.