They have police right in the school. They would just use her.
Pretty sad, I probably made things worse tonight. Q heard me on the phone even though I had gone in my closet to talk. He freaked out about my saying the name of the Special Education school. He said he was going to pay them all back etc. After a fit and his breaking my light switch on the wall in my room I got him to sit down and talk. Every time he started saying things like he is going to make the dog take the blame etc... I again said, no nonsense talk, this is serious.
I told him I didn't want him to talk to the psycho or the counselor anymore. Q told me that the psycho has been telling him he is there to help him and he can say whatever... so Q says literally...WHATEVER and also says nonsense stories. These things are all documented as if he is really deeply disturbed. Nevermind no testing has ever shown anything like that, no one who works with him in any other setting has thought that or thinks that, but since he can't carry on such conversations because he just says whatever comes to mind that engages them. that has always been shown in testing and daily anecdotal data. He never maintains a topic and has an awful time taking turns in a conversation. He just brings up any topic he can imitate or that he has said over and over and gets a reaction. if you dont attend to it, he moves on to something else like nascar or baseball.
He said he is going to tell them the dog and another kid really said all those things, I said this is the kind of nonsense talk that your school thinks means you are not a good match for them. I said, I want you to stay there and do a great job. I know you can. He said (like he says every day) well tomorrow I will turn it all around and be good all day. he said he destroyed his room again, well those are the words they used with us so clearly that is what they are telling him he is doing...
He ripped a book and tipped his table. (they taught him to rip things for calming, I TOLD them he will nto stick to a box of recycled paper he will rip everything but they didnt' listen to me at all so now he rips his notebooks, assignments etc.)
He didn't destroy his room, he messed the room and nothing is broken. Nothing has ever been broken there but that is how they tell the principal so he says he is ruining school property. He cleans up the room each and every time.
I told him it has to stop. That I can't defend him if he does this because the truth is the principal doesn't understand. He said he is going to tell him to leave him alone because he doesn't understand. It is so hard to support him because he says things this way then and then they say he is being awful to them. I told him that if he had worries or concerns he can talk to his counselor at the therapy place we are going to.... he said well psycho is the only one who he will tell things..... I had to then say to him, it is ok to tell him any fun things you want to tell him. But he is not really helping us right now. I know Q is going to tell him that. But I really dont care now. I told him that he can just say no thank you if they ask if he wants to talk. BUT that does not mean he can ignore the teachers when they talk about his school work .
I wouldn't have even told Q anything but he saw me crying and got agitated then when he snuck up the stairs and hit behind the wall he heard me on the phone. when I first told him that I was just talking to my friend he said I know you are hiding something. He got so out of control I decided to just tell him part of what was up.
I sure hope I didn't just seal his coffin. I doubt anything would turn out differently anyway. I just said I am doing all I can to support him but I need him to try to keep his thoughts in his thinking bubble better. No more telling stories and nonsense talk to any of the teachers. Only talk about school stuff. I know he can't but maybe it will slow it down a little. Q was very calm by the time he went to bed. He actually said that he is just going to talk to the private counselor.
I doubt that will happen but at least he is calm now and not full of anxiety. We were even making jokes about things totally unrelated by the end of the night.