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and the first issue of the day has been going on for an hour already.
difficult child was in easy child's room, I don't know what was going on, but I could hear easy child saying quite forcefully, "I don't want you in here, Get out!" Of course, he does not, so I tell him to leave easy child's room. difficult child goes, but now he's bent out of shape because he's been removed from his favorite punching bag. I jump in the shower and I hear difficult child yelling at easy child. I call to difficult child and ask what's going on. He says that he wants to say he's sorry to easy child, but easy child won't open the door. We have talked about this many times. Alot of times easy child does not want to open his door to difficult child after they've had an issue because easy child is afraid of difficult child, so I have told difficult child to come and get me and I will help him. Does he do that? No. So now he's even more bent out of shape because difficult child won't listen to him. I get out of the shower and get dressed and try to talk to both of them. easy child is not ready to talk to difficult child yet and difficult child is getting angrier by the minute about it.
About 15 minutes later easy child comes out and I ask him if he wants to talk to difficult child. He says okay. We go looking for difficult child, who is hiding in his closet and now refuses to talk to easy child because "if easy child really cared he would have come when I called him!" I tried to explain to him that easy child is not a dog and he does not have to come when he calls him, plus easy child was trying to calm down. Nope. In difficult child mind easy child not coming at the exact moment difficult child wants him means that easy child hates him and could care less about him.
So now, difficult child says that he's not going bowling this morning and that if easy child really cares about him he would not go either. husband (who has spent this whole episode lying in bed telling difficult child to leave easy child alone. I know very helpful, right?) says that we won't go then. I tell him why should the rest of us not have any fun because of difficult child and his tantrum? This happens all the time and it needs to stop. So I tell difficult child not to be upset if the rest of us decide that we want to go. We want him to go with us, I'm not going to force him. I think he's stunned that we said we'll still go without him.
Part of me is not sure if I should go. I don't trust leaving difficult child here alone. Maybe I should just let easy child and husband go? I'm not sure what to do, but I think that it's important for easy child to be able to go.
difficult child was in easy child's room, I don't know what was going on, but I could hear easy child saying quite forcefully, "I don't want you in here, Get out!" Of course, he does not, so I tell him to leave easy child's room. difficult child goes, but now he's bent out of shape because he's been removed from his favorite punching bag. I jump in the shower and I hear difficult child yelling at easy child. I call to difficult child and ask what's going on. He says that he wants to say he's sorry to easy child, but easy child won't open the door. We have talked about this many times. Alot of times easy child does not want to open his door to difficult child after they've had an issue because easy child is afraid of difficult child, so I have told difficult child to come and get me and I will help him. Does he do that? No. So now he's even more bent out of shape because difficult child won't listen to him. I get out of the shower and get dressed and try to talk to both of them. easy child is not ready to talk to difficult child yet and difficult child is getting angrier by the minute about it.
About 15 minutes later easy child comes out and I ask him if he wants to talk to difficult child. He says okay. We go looking for difficult child, who is hiding in his closet and now refuses to talk to easy child because "if easy child really cared he would have come when I called him!" I tried to explain to him that easy child is not a dog and he does not have to come when he calls him, plus easy child was trying to calm down. Nope. In difficult child mind easy child not coming at the exact moment difficult child wants him means that easy child hates him and could care less about him.
So now, difficult child says that he's not going bowling this morning and that if easy child really cares about him he would not go either. husband (who has spent this whole episode lying in bed telling difficult child to leave easy child alone. I know very helpful, right?) says that we won't go then. I tell him why should the rest of us not have any fun because of difficult child and his tantrum? This happens all the time and it needs to stop. So I tell difficult child not to be upset if the rest of us decide that we want to go. We want him to go with us, I'm not going to force him. I think he's stunned that we said we'll still go without him.
Part of me is not sure if I should go. I don't trust leaving difficult child here alone. Maybe I should just let easy child and husband go? I'm not sure what to do, but I think that it's important for easy child to be able to go.