Hi all My son, 4 and a half, has just been diagnosed with ODD with Aspergers tendencies. I'm having a hard time with accepting that label. My son has always been difficult, prone to tantrums and incredibly persistant (3 hour screaming fit anyone?!), and recently has begun soiling himself. We went to see the school nurse, and she recommended an assessment. I'm always aware that when I describe my sons behaviour, other people seem to think there is a problem. I've always felt that it takes twice the time and effort to parent him compared to my eldest son . He shows no bad behaviour in school, apart from the odd soiling incident and screaming when I leave him etc. In fact, he is doing very well at school, in the top group and ahead a stage with his reading. My problem with the label is that I don't think my son has a 'disorder', I just think he has a difficult personality. Of course, I want to get advice on parenting him because I want to make his life (and ours) easier in the long term, but it feels like all the doctor's want to do is put him in a certain box. To us, he is just himself, and I don't want a label on his record which will follow him through life. Our family seems to think he just needs a firmer hand, but how much firmer than smacking a child and leaving a hand print can you get? If I shout, he just shouts louder. If I put him in his room, he just runs out. I put him upstairs earlier, and he nearly pushed me down the stairs. It wasn't deliberate, but his fury is unbelievable. When I read the list for ODD, I can say he ticks all the boxes. BUT, so has every other child I've ever met at some point. How does the psychiatrist know that it isn't a parenting issue? Sorry for the ramble, but my thoughts are in freefall.