I've talked to mother and emailed my brother. Had to do both sooner rather than later because I was afraid difficult child would hit them up for $. I haven't told a soul in real life. I am afraid if I tell it like it is; they will judge difficult child. On the otherhand, I am afraid if I skim over the screaming red flags we saw, they will judge me for over-reacting. Yes, these are my friends, who probably shouldn't and may not actually judge either of us. But I still hold back... I have been playing hermit. Not sure I will ever feel like being out and about again. Especially since so many of my friends have kids difficult child's age...and their kids are doing well. Talk naturally turns to our kids and their great plans in life... we all became friends BECAUSE our kids are the same age...so it's not a "my kid is better than your kid brag"; just everyday over lunch discussions like we've had for the past 10 years. I am not sure how long I can hang on to the "yes, he's back at school, I am sure he is doing fine" facade.