The truth? Nobody, even parents of seemingly well balanced adults, can predict the future for sure or prevent a suicide for sure. My youngest daughter knew four teen suicides that upset her very much in high school. Not one of the kids let anyone know in advance. In fact the last poor kid put on a face like he was doing better the night before. Then he did it at home. Another was a cops son also living at home with a troubled history. He shot himself. At home. With his parents home. Now the next is not a suicide. A lovely engaged young woman was killed in a traffic accident that was not her fault. The shock vibrated through the entire community. She was stable and happy, but still died.
None of us can protect anyone from dying. We can't even be sure we won't die tomorrow. Talking about suicide is probably a sign that the person wants help. Or blackmail. Either way you are more likely to succeed if you don't tell. Your son is telling the world. If you go, like you say you are, call 911 if he does anything dangerous. Likely he would call you at home even if you don't go. 911 at the first sign of suicidal talk. 911. Don't try to do it yourself. You are not a professional.
There is little chance he will really do it. There is no promise that our kids or other loved ones or ourselves will be alive each day. We can t control it. Scares me too when I think a loved one is taking a risk. Trust me. Scares every mother!
The rest I don't know about. Never did rehab. Didn't know much about it.y Oldest daughter, meth and cocaine addict, quit on her own and that shocked us. We thought she would end up dead or in prison. She gave me every gray hair under my hair dye!
Rehab is no guarantee. I think it's a step in the right direction. I would not go bankrupt though over the interventionist but that's me. I always had to watch my pennies. You can't buy what you don't have. If you have the money, you can try it. Follow your gut. JMO.
I hope this comes to a peaceful resolution. I believe in the healing power of pets. Perhaps, to make up for the loss of the pets the woman is taking, encourage him to save a life and adopt a pet from the humane society. Now! Before she goes. He has a heart for animals...a person after my heart. Perhaps this is something that will distract him. It is a living being who would love and need him and just belong to him.
Love, light and peace. You are doing a stellar job in a difficult situation.